    Why do Some Trans Women Hate Trans Men?
                            And other issues facing the modern queer community in 2025.
                                           From a disabled Trans Male Perspective
                                (Opinion Piece - Essay)

By Elijah Brahmi

Trigger Warning: — Transphobia, Transmysandry, Anti Trans masculine Bigotry, Sexism, TERF Ideology, Trans male erasure, Censorship, Bullying, abuse, Centering Trans Men and our experiences for once, integrating Trans Female Privilege /queer women’s privilege and abuse of power in queer spaces. Honestly about bad things done by a trans women (If you can’t handle the connect of a trans woman doing something wrong, probably best to click off now.)

The Queer community has always had problems, the modern community is in an odd condurum, we have more rights then we used to, but now half of them are being revoked by Trump and his evil amistrartion, targeting Trans rights of minors and adults in countless states, as well as contouring this moral panic and culture war against trans pepole and many of our rights, such as the right to have empyment and housing disrmnation protections, the right to use public bathrooms, trans Teenagers rights to start gender affirming care with their own private doctors and family involvement to illuvate debilaataing gender dysprhoia and poetical susides and mental heath breakdowns, the right to access hormones and gender affroming care for trans adults in many states that has banned it, especially under Medicade witch has been all but revoked, — and many more rights and protections for trans pepole, and queer pepole. The truth is Trans pepole are under attack, we have known this but its worse then most pepole escpially cis pepole-think it is, and it only getting worse and were only half a year into the first year of this hellish admirsnration. Trans susides, trans youth susides, have grown anti trans conversion therapys have been filling up, and being more legitimized not just in religious communities, Trans pepole have been made a debate and a centrist issue on one side is our humanity on the other side is calling us groomers, and unabel to make decions about our own bodies, and flesh and blood our skin sacks, Simalr to abortion rights, to the right to refuse medication in the Mad Community, Boldily Autonmy is a human right that’s slowly getting eroded away. But It’s not just trans rights that are under attack, and have been in full force to some extent since the pandemic, becuase the republicans lost the war against gay marriage and abortion access so they chose trans pepole are their next scapegoat to win elections, and so far its mostly worked they have won the presidency and quite a few federal and local elections around the world. But to all you LGB freaks, Trump hasn’t just been attacking trans pepole and especially Trans kids, trump has been attempting to overturn Obergfeld /and make Gay Marriage illegal again, and even criminalize gay sex again witch was the case until 2003, witch is very possible. It would be easier now to prosecute since Palinter is making a database on All Americans in secret as we speak, for government use on spying and prosecuting all Americans, using our Private Data, so the government would likely know who’s gay, who’s trans, who’s having gay sex and where they can probably track hookup apps (God knows despite what they will claimb, Repeublicans are having lots of secret gay sex on Grindir and everyone knows it) But yeah Gay pepole’s rights have already been infringed, not yet marriage, (Not to mention the fact that Dislabed Pepole and Polyarmous Peole still dont have Marriage equality at all, Poly Thrupples, can only marry in Masschutes, dislabed pepole still can’t get married in any state without loosing their benefits so lots of pepole, queer pepole and otherwise, still dont have marrige euqulity so pepole should definitely talk about that more) But only in the last few years, the attribute towards even cis white gay men the most rich rpivallged and accepted are being fucked over by Trumps New Homobobic Laws, for example Trump made getting access to Prep almost impossible and life saving HIV medication for HIV positive Americans, gay and otherwise—-due to the cuts in HIV funding and USAID, pepole in third world countries who relied on it to get their aids medication and….surivive, are now having to go without live saving medication for a deadly pandemic, their patron saint Roland Reagan allowed thousands of gay pepole to die from in the 80s and beyond, and Trump did the same thing with Covid and is now targeting pepole with HIV as well. Not to mention the don't say gay bills, disallowing kids to learn about trans and gay pepole in schools, and legally mandates outing kids as trans or gay to even abusive and dangerous bigoted parents, and Trump has passed euxtive orders involving, laws limiting gays and lesbians from donating blood, basically gutting the ERA, disrmanation statues on the basis of Sexual Orenetaion, not to mention Anti Gay and anti trans senetmites, In popular Culture, pepole are way more normalized saying faggot and tranny in public without condemnation, Tv Shows and movies have cut down on gay and trans repsneation cpaautualting to Right Wing culture war goons like the daily wire and their slop ecosystem of calling any gay or trans repeusation either fake, forced, woke, etc. The culture as a whole is very anti queer right now, voleince and harassment agaisst gay couples in the street, murder of trans pepole and hate crime numbers are going up, the groomer narrative and hypersuezxlized assoation of queer pepole to contrast against the normal, chaste, cis Hereros and sadly for the vast majority of pepole that subnmanail disgust and knee jerk reaction against queer art, queer gender expression, queer relationships, etc, its all just become background noise, justified and normal in a lot of pepoles cowardly, self persevering life where you as the Average joe just go along with whatever is popular in society, if society hates gays and wants them dead for indoctrinating your children and having sex, somwhere, sometime and wasn’t punished for it. especially normalizing hate speech yet again, is a big part of it because if you try and censor some ones hate speech in a casual setting most of the time you will get yelled at for being too sensitive and being too annoying, disrupting their safe space to spew hate and let their true opinions hang loose without having to try to do any work to have empathy and think about not saying slurs, especially using them if your not gay —in a souly mocking context of queer pepole against queer people. Yeah its bad, and even a couple years ago I remember, you would be yelled at for saying Faggot in any context hell swearing itself was less normalized even among teenagers, I was a teenager almost a decade ago, not too long, I remember your reputation would be ruined and you would probably even be expelled or at least suspended for saying homophobic slurs, in like 2015. everyone called me and other antisemitic and mentally ill kids “Retards” I heard that word almost daily growing up hurled at me, that and just using the Word Autstsic itself as a slur, and to be honest pepole were still transphobic back then just calling especially no binary people stupid SJWs and attention seekers and whatever, but they hardly ever would bring up trans people, nowadays everyone is talking about trans people all the time and usually not saying anything good, or true, as well as now a lot of people say as the R slur, and a lot of other slurs against queer pepole like dyke, barley contained Duscuist, but are making new ones and new dog whistles like Groomer.

The truth is the queer community is under attack, so many have felt that it’s imperative we take care of each other and fight for our rights, but focus on each other rather then relying on assimilation and overly being concerned with government approval, mainstream society’s approval. Witch is great in theory, and is surely how the queer community has been forced to operate in the past, back when we were truly forced into the shadows not forced into the spotlight, and to be honest,

much as pepole are nisgolic for the queer eras of the past, as much as we tnd to romanatcize the 60s and 70s era of queer culture and actvsim, we dont have a time michine. Nisgilia is fun escpasim and nowdays as our world gets empier. colder lonlier and less hopfull with less freinds and "comunity" for most pepoleespcially the pepole who need it most, who cant go viral on instgram or tik tok for being the right kind of quirky, for like disbalbed and young pepole who dont have the human rights they desrve, (often dislabed pepole especially Ausstic and mentally ill pepole who aren’t social perfect and genuinely struggle with these things and isnt just lying they have certain disorders to seem quirky, excuse their very normal very ineteional bad behavior, to get more of a claim to benefits, and having this ora of victimhood of I can’t do anything wrong when clearly not struggling with any real symtomes, of any real mental illness or neurodivergence, like a lot of these queer party girlies who are emersley popular, well loved by all have money, and a support system, and have genuinely extremely loose morals often claimb to be disabled or auastsic, but then just use that credit to bully pepole who struggle more then them and are actully disabled, its a widespread Phonomon of mean girls taking the cues of what’s poplular perceive meantl illness as just a tik tok costume, and a way to get what they what, and their perfect freinds who worship Their every word, will bend over backwards to acomdanate them but then when someone is actully ausstic, and mentally ill and doesn’t handle being bullied by these girls well, and has EXTREEM mood swings, and has no sopport only assures and bullies…like for too many ausstic and mentally ill baddies get trapped in freind groups where they aren’t able to set boundaries, have their very real didblataing condataion used against them, not always, but just as often by pepole who pretend to be mentally ill just to mock it, just to show they can get any sympathy, any loyalty they want, and will relish in TEH double standard, becuase they dont know what real mental illness looks like and will tell you its not an excuse, but then thease mean girls will say only when it’s convenient they have a disorder that causes them to be insecure and lash out, often they lie about having BPD, when their just awful bullies, and in some cases actual absuers who will target someone actully disabled and struggling and call them cringe and atteion seeking and inavaldte and gaslight them that things are their fault. Truly these kinds of friendships are common among dislabed pepole, pepole dont often fake being disabled its truly a harmful stereotype and has proven to be just a way to dissect pepoles condition becuase it doesn’t conform to stereotypes instead of just accepting someone’s medical reality that you know nothing about or becuase you dont like them so anything their getting sympathy for you just cant hold in their head when dealing with them. Most pepole who say they are dislabed weather self diagnosed or not, know themselves better then you, but a select few especially in our social reality truly know how to manipulate the perfection of sympathy around certain disorders and when to weponize such things in order to justify their already vile and heartless behavior, and contain to be a bully while many simple minded pepole will believe oh their meantlly ill they cant be a bully, becuase these pepole are again often bueatful, rich, popular and spoiled rotten used to getting their way. And will often find someone truly disabled or mentally ill and exploit, bully and terrorize them, Becuase they know they can get away with it. Always something to be on the look out for, if someone is genuinely disabled especially if there still in middle or high school and their being bullied, you need to make a stink, stand up for the dislabed kids in your life, complain to the parents and school and even police if you must, untill something gets done. The vast majority of truly dislabed and mentally ill pepole are not bullies, we grow up being bullied and it traumatizes and shapes us, we are often thought standing up for ourselves is just as bad as being beaten and mocked in front of the whole school, think of how it feels when a completely neurotypical and porvably sane person claiming to be mentally ill despite never acting in any of the ways that the symtomes would indicate, and also despite having no social difficulties, (you need to have those to have austsim its a requirement) Or despite having no issue regulating or processing emotions is in fact very muinptive, controlling and in control at all times. (Again you can’t claimb to have an anixixty disorder if your never anxious, you can’t claimb to have bipolar if you never had mania EXTREEM mood swings or EXTREEM reactions of anger and depression especially during puberty) Make sure you protect your ausstic child who will probably try and defend this mean girl, want to be her freind becuase she’s made your kid believe their too stupid, or crazy, to have any real freinds of their own. Make sure you tell your kid their loved, and you make sure they get diagnosed young and get the sopport and adocomadations they need, stand up for them becuase often times no one else will, not their teachers, not their theaprists or their principals thease days its worse there’s cops in schools if your kid has a mood disorder is getting bullied and can’t control his or her/thier emotions and just cant take being beaten up, and mocked for their entire life, one day they just cant stand it anymore they have ptsd from being bullied so much they were to embraced to tell you, so your teachers start telling you their voilenet, getting in fights, you know your kid better you start asking them what really happened, and they just say No one would stand up for me, they dont see what I go through, its umbarnable their sensitive remember especially bipolar kiddos especially during puberty even if their taking medication cant handle emotional distress and will often react in EXTREEM and desperate ways especially if they were p-used for a long time to that point, You need to teach them violence and its no way to solve every conflict, but you also need to teach them, sometimes it is, and this was one of those times. Becuase its true, if someone is beating you up, verbally, physically and your much loss stable and able to endure such emotional burdens compared to your peers, such bullying traumatzies everyone but for pepole who are bipolar and acting out a trauma response, to constant and Intsnse bullying, Your kid can feel like the world is against them that no one will ever stand up for them or take their side, no one will ever comfort them, no one will ever think their worth defending when every class of the day, online, on the bus, at the park near your house, the community center (YMCA) camps, afterschool programs, with his family and freinds outside of school to some extend, everywhere he goes he’s blamed for everything that goes wrong in the world, everywhere he goes he’s picked apart his very essence, insulted, ignored, always misunderstood, rejected, everywhere he goes he’s just being himself being funny, talkivive sure he’s also undgonzed ausstic he’s auststcic so he doesn’t understand when a conversation starts and ends he doesn’t have a filter, he doesn’t know how to find love or where and often ends up trying to date his freinds, or mishandling confusing and overwhelming drama causing him to constantly get dumped by lovers and freinds, pepole call him lame, crazy, Phyco, overconidfent and in need to be humbled, cringe, stupid retarded and untillgent when he knew he read more and knew more then half these pepole and even at that age he knew he was smart, funny, talented, had freinds, he was a telleneted artsist, uniquely creative, he was brillant, he got good grades, he knew it didn’t matter how smart you are or how pretty or popular you are, he knew what really matters is being a good person and leaving the world a better place then he found it, he strived to do that everywhere he went he made good freinds sure, but often their closeness and rare moments of true friendship, connection and acceptance were entirely overshadowed he hates changing plans. The point is, if your mentally ill epsiclaly if your BPD, Bipolar have severe depression anxiety and or are auatsic/ADHD (to say nothing of EvEN more stsigmized disorders like DID, Skitofreina, sksitfefftive, certain delusions and phobias, or just having like down syndrome, or a more severe nurgolical condition) the world is gaiasnst you and your very lucky if your school doesn’t traumatize you and blame you for every time you get bullied, and every time you fight back if you ever get the courage of loose so much faith in humanity and your life you just stop caring about fitting it, approval or consequences and just next time your bully starts his shit against you you just cut him, throw a chair at him, scratch him, punch him three times harder then he punched you, pour scalding hot soup on his head, destroy his property, do wahatever the fuck you can! You at this point were abused and had that abuse enabled by all kinds of pepole, physical violence and mental and emotional abuse going on for years, you can deadass, So what im trying to say is protect your kids, especially if their being bullied you should always takes your kids side, literally every parent should take this advice, you dont need to do tough love when your kids being brutally bullied and is being mistreated and victim blamed for said bullying. You need to make a stink to their school, perphasphs if you can afford it—-homeschooling might be the right altertive for them, so they dont have to be bullied anymore, dont go looking for schools for mentally ill kids remember bullying makes mental illness worse, take them out of the eveomenment if nothing improves and the school refuses to do anything. Especially not the troubled teen industry it doesn’t matter if they were arrested, expelled and you believe no school would be safe for them TTI is a known illegal child abusing hell worse then what their currently suffering through, there are schools now for mentally ill kids, that don’t involve absconding your kid and cutting them off for freinds and community sending them to RELGIOUS cult that punishes the mentally ill and just traumatizes them more.

IF you send your kid to TTI, wilderness therapy, or conversion therapy school —especially a program that kidnaps them, and takes full legal custody of your child trapping them half way across the country with no way to come home, espcpe or survive horrific sexual, physical and mental abuse ten times worse that they cant handle. And will break them emotionally and physically and is the quickest way to make your kid hate, fear and want to hurt you, (revenge) for betraying them, and sending them to endure such atrocities it will make them feel unloved, and make them dependent on you if you can’t survive being homeless and want to cut you off but cant afford it and dont know how to survive on the streets or in society by the themselves because instead of given atteion, healing from bullying, love, sopport, care they are given punishment regression in a high voleinet prison envorment —-It will give them CPTSD and make them despise you as parents whenever they say I love you, that will be a lie they will never trust you, never forgive you as long as they live, and they will feel unsafe and reataumitzed whenever their around you.

As a parent truly the quickest way to abuse your child and go from concerned parent to actual evil person who allows such things to happen to their kid. Don’t fall for TTI, there’s always a better alewive. Besides TTI will bleed your bank account dry, They would probably stop being voleinet witch again they are only in self defense, if you as parents trusted them more, worked on being more patient with them, learning about their dosiginis instead of questioning and invalidating their experiences being trans, poly, or mentally ill or neurodivergent. Your kid knows best about themselves always good to follow up with a diagnosis, Truly you need to give them the sopport they need especially if their not getting the right kind of sopport at school, Be kind and loving, not constantly disjointed and expressing frustration —-and never celbrating any of their accomplishments without undercutting it

You need to trust your kid

is wrong, but it’s imperative you validate

when they are just being mean many who are disabled often pepole who are genuinely dislabed in others ways too can get ....still to this day.

Like all radical movments based on imperfect, fluid, uncategorizable identities, the queer community was never as truly united, or baithed in badass revetionary glory as many younger queers like to idealize it as. Due to the internet and other sad shadows hanging of modern life, uniqely modern curses, nistogila is an ednelss loop and many young queers have grown to respect, worship their qeer edleers often morlrized in endless reposting and recurilating of the same epehrimal images of martha p jhonson and silvera reveira, as well as other queer icons. Younger queer people of Gen z and Gen alpha, idolize and have deep reverence and respect for theri elders who paved the way for them, and often dont get the respect from the history books they desrve and are often met with sanatzing, demonzation of their atcvsim as extreeemism, and erasure. But at the same time as they pay tribuite to their elders both living and dead, (often due to the tragic fact most young queer pepole even in our "more accpecting time" even the ones who have accpetinng family, freinds, schools and empoyers, almost never have a queer mentor, elder, or role model in their personal life to empart wisdom, proetction, and sopport when often older roll models in many young pepeoles personal life is sourly lacking in gernal. Many young pepole try to fill that whole that drag mothers, queer older godfathers and that family freind who had lived a long life and had alot of wisdom to impart and was invested in upfliting the younger genrations instead of diregarding them and cutting them down like far too many gen x and boomer older adults have become known to do. Due to this void of a true queer mentor and elders in pepoles actual personal lives and comunity, many have turned to vaorlize those elders of the past, that never lived to tell give them guidnce when they needed it most tell them they should be themeslves, persvere, that it was gonna be ok, despite having the world against you, you have comunity not just in name but in pratice. Many lack these roll models and wish they had been able to be in comunity or at least live at the same atime as so many icons, revetionaries and textured cultural figures pepole like Hearvy Milk have given way to pete buddgieg, Trans actvists are vinilized and stamped out, So much queer culture and restince has seeimgly been stripped away from modern socicty. Sure more pepole are punk and queer and we have made big strides, but pepole need to understand this deep yirning and nistgolia queer pepole have for a bygone era, many dont consiter or they belive that the tight knit comunity, persrved and uniqe queer culture not yet mainstreamd and obsorbed into cpattalisim, to be living at such a rich and vibrent time, most impoatranly defined by gay. bars having a deep sense of in person comunity, freind circles and joy and artstsic experimentation, espcially during the 60s, 70s and even the 80s. Many belived it would be worth teh risk, to endure the anti queer opression ofthe past, if it means experincing a comunity that is actully a comunity, forged arround shared humanity insetad of the social media watered-down, decentralized constant ignored mutail aid post, queer protests hardly attended, unorgnized and shut down by our new facist tech-olagarcy masqurading as a demorcry. Everyone Nistgolic, for romanaticized eras past, many belive despite their flaws, pepole still felt like pepole hung out in person,relied on each other more when you watch old movies from the 60s, 70s, and even the 80s its just. Sonoticibly more....human then our current dehumanized deeply lonley disoccnected socicty (espcially for magrnized pepoel) where most people nowadays pepole never even hang out in person theres hardly anyone hangs out in person anymore, for avalrity of reasons, the lack of third space, unsafe polcing of spaces and lack of free accesible events and queer coumnity centers, spaces eveen in big cities and small towns with leven less queer options for pepole then big cities have.

But

Trans Men Celbrating our bueatful unique culture: Not erased or overcrowded or overshadowed by Trans Wemon pretending they are the face of trans pepole and making no effort to uplift or include us, not just dypsphoria lack of acceptance, pain or suffering:

Images of Trans Men through history showing our community in all our Bueaty and awesomeness.